Sigh. I am so very frustrated with Big J’s school right now.
Last year, his teacher kept me in the loop. Yes, it was very frustrating that he continued to have frequent incidents with his behavior, but at least I knew about it. Now? I had both an IEP meeting and a conference in the last month, and all I basically got was that he’s doing well.
However.
The other morning J started talking to me while he was in the shower. In fact, I’d nearly walked out of the room and missed it. He told me that all the kids in the school think he “likes boys” because this kid told all his friends and they told all theirs. And that he got in trouble even though he didn’t say it. Well, obviously it concerned me that I hadn’t heard anything about this before.
Now, I know that a boy insulting another boy by insinuating that he likes boys is not a new insult. They used that one back in my day, matter of fact. Also: I am not even opening up any discussion about homosexuality here, period. Irrelevant to this discussion, and I will not engage it, k? Not what this is about. /preemptivedefensiverant
So…I went to the school and asked about the incident. They said two whole people heard him say it, so, you know, it must be true because kids don’t ever team up against another kid, or anything. (I’m not assuming that happened, just annoyed that it’s not ever considered as a viable possibility.) And, he didn’t actually get in “trouble”, but was just removed from the cafeteria table with these same kids.
The thing I’m truly upset about is that they also told me that J lies all the time, mostly to get out of trouble. Why have they never told me this!?! Because they “try to take care of issues [them]selves”. Well, I call bullshit on this one. He’s not a typical student. Obviously. I pull him out of school every week to take him to behavioral therapy, and they neglect, for half a school year, to tell me about an ongoing problem behavior.
::tearsouthair::
So. The therapist is going to call the teacher, and I’m going to go from there. The Husband talked to the principal today and told her that we expect to know about further incidents, and he plans to be present at the school on a more regular basis. I think because J’s needs aren’t as severe as they were, he’s now kind of getting swept under the rug.
Grr.
